Two sides of the same coin
Former trustee of Birthlight Rhea Quin shares with us how meeting a Birthlight mum and dad with their new baby inspired thoughts around the closeness of birth and death.
Last Wednesday I visited Shire Hall in Cambridge to register the death of my ancient father. He passed away gracefully at the age of almost 102. When I came out of the registrars office, a couple were waiting in the waiting room, smiling. I noticed immediately that they were quietly waiting, but also looked so happy, radiant in fact. I said 'hello' and they were very responsive, so we chatted. Then I spotted this little crib containing a peaceful baby. The couple had come to register the birth of their ten day old baby.
As a former Birthlight Trustee I took an interest in the birth. 'Yes, this little girl was born at the Rosie Hospital. Yes, it was a water birth and was very quick, really easy." Well, I decided to inquired further. "Oh, said the mother, I knew how to breathe. I attended classes at Birthlight. There I learned how to breathe during the birth. It was so helpful!." Meanwhile the father was fully participating, adding snippets of information. So I told them about my connection with Birthlight and they were delighted.
Yes, they might well take their little one to Baby Yoga classes.
I looked at this tiny bundle of humanity, so peaceful, and was reminded of a Tibetan Lama who once told me that well birthed, well cared for babies are in a state
of perfect meditation much of the time... until they loose it as they engage more with the world.
I felt so uplifted after this meeting, and after registering my fathers death. He often said: Birth and death, they are two sides of the same coin.